Today is the one and only question in the minds of all is “where the youth of this generation go?”, as the lifestyle and values of youth disrupts the society to say the least. Although the problems of youth and the problems that face many of them created, it is not the state of things of youth alone, what fear is. The baby on the way in this world, new born babies, causing the children in various stages of growth and also face problems. In an attempt to find the cause of the problem, it is the parents who are responsible for them, most of the time. Although not the sole cause, they have to play an important role. Your success in parenting depends on the kind of parents they are, their environment, support the family, always the possibility for parents designed hood, the level of training, the nature of the child involved and so on. The problems, mainly psychological, would disappear with the right education. lived in the early days, people especially in joint families. The experience and advice to the young parents of the elders, parents, aunts, grandparents, uncles, guide them in the process of parenting received. The kids had a lot of people to support them, to allow them to vent their feelings and the likely findings opportunities to learn solutions to their problems.
came in conversation with a group of adolescent girls shocking news to light. Many of the young girls were in illicit relationship with auto-driver, with which they come to school. Deeper analysis revealed the fact that these girls have been longing for love from their parents. If one iota of love or something like it is indicated by the auto drivers, they are easy prey to the former’s devious designs, of course, they suffer later when they made it difficult to find free themselves from the clutches of the driver. Only parents can help these children. One of the great, noble features of parenthood is the love and alone can cure many diseases faced by children and adolescents. It can help get the girls to themselves1.
say In still another instance, a 5-year old orphan boy in a care center for AIDS-infected people stunned the audience that if his father had a proper education, he would not have gone astray, and ended with AIDS, infected the mother too2. Even this little boy knows the importance of parenthood. Everyone knows parents and follow the kind of education shown by their parents, or what they have learned, given through courses or training, or counseling by psychologists and gurus.
Just as there are different types of people There are different kinds of styles of their parents. The parents of style influences the level and nature of child development. Regardless of the style of parenting essentials will be studied to be “Express your love, your child feel safe. Building their self-esteem. Stay flexible and recognize the time for a change, as your child grows. They communicate openly and honestly and confident in their abilities “3 If you talk to your child, you should actually listen not just listen.
Another variety of family life is known as permissive. These parents allow their children to make their own way, follow mostly non-interfering. It is similar to say, “Let the sleeping dogs lie,” as they are. These parents do not follow any strict rules, or take a major responsibility in the upbringing of their children. There is another type of classification of the parents. According to this classification, there are three types of parents, as a consultant, helicopters, Dull Sergeants6.
This Love and Logic Parent offers guidance and advice for children
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The Love and Logic provides parents with messages of personal value and strength
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provides news of weakness and low personal value
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news offers little personal dignity and resistance
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makes excuses for the child, but complains about battered responsibility
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The Love and Logic parents shows how to take care of themselves and be responsible
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“takes over” the responsibility of the child
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tells the child how he / she should be responsible
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The Love and Logic Parent shares personal feelings about their own power and responsibility
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protects the child from possible negative feelings
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says the child as he / she should feel
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The Love and Logic provides parents and children helps to explore alternatives and then allowed to make child, his / her own decision
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decisions for the child
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offers absolute “,” This is the decision that you should do. “
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The Love Logic provides parents and “time window” in which responsibility
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provides no structure, but the complaints: “From what I for you done … “
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demands which jobs and responsibilities to be done now
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The Love and Logic Parent models do a good job, finishing, cleaning up, feel good to know.
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whines and uses guilt: “When are you going to learn more. I always have to clean up after you. “
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issues orders and threats:” You get the room cleaned up, otherwise … ”
8th
Love and Logic parents themselves often asks, “Who owns the problem?” helps the child to explore solutions to its problems
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and complains of an irresponsible child, “I” makes a lot of work and responsibility
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the property takes on the problem with threats and orders to resolve the problem
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The Love and Logic Parent uses many actions, but very few words
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uses many words and deeds, that rescue or provide that the child is not capable or responsible
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used many hard words, very few actions
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serve
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protects child from natural consequences, guilt used as the teacher
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used punishment, pain and humiliation can serve as a teacher.
One way to identify the nature of the parents is through the analysis of the nature of the gifts they give to their children, to make it there specific activity. Some parents have a survival mentality, they give their child “what” just so they do not at the job. Some parents work with a standard mentality. you give your child what is popular regardless of whether it will be most helpful. In practice, the parent should act deliberately and purposefully, so that the child what is useful, after thinking through carefully. They are commonly known as “intentional parents’ seventh, depending on what type or kind of parents are to change the objectives and gifts as well. In the case of permissive parents, will be the leitmotiv “If I can it with the child – rearing years, I can get back my life.” Their aim will be “jilting the children from the house.” follow to do the simplest method, which is easy to do. Therefore, they use bribes, threats and use TV as a baby sitter8.
On the other hand, those “who want to give the child what is best and most helpful for him “, the aim of preparing the child for life as a productive adult. would you spend valuable time with the child, given the teaching of ethical values for the child. The gifts of such parents would have” religious books, pleasant pastime, academics, home skills and opportunities for socialization “9
If a child is to be successful in life is the appropriate parental care necessary. But of course there are children who grow up , into successful adults, despite the lack of education. But such cases are very rare. The company is currently with the problems of children especially in the case of single parents, divorced parents, simple and extended families. Most of the children brought up by single parents and unmarried mothers is it difficult to meet with the stresses in the family and society.
, busy working parents, the heavy burden of learning with many distractions and the problems facing the society is linked, the kids are looking for support to their parents for a safe life. It is commonly observed that children without proper basis and has always led an indefinite period of confusion in the child’s development. Much
o Developing clear communication and clarifying expectations.
Ray Burke states: “Children can be sarcastic, defiant, rebellious and potentially violent, the parents, for times like these prepared and learn to keep a cool head “12 Another way to increase or encourage desired behavior is to use positive impact. What parents should remember is to make the positive impact that use to work with the child would. remember when developing a child’s behavior with parents that, “should the coherence.” Consistency is the key to a successful parent. This gives the message to the child that “your parents are reliable and serious”.
The most important aspect of successful parents that the parents should be role model for their child, 13 parents a positive role model to follow for their child. Ray Burke as saying: ” Praise is powerful …. Praise is nourishment. It helps in the emotional development. It helps build self-esteem, belief in personal satisfaction, a sense of security. be “14 The praise should be communicated to the child either verbally or through action.
Parenting Skills:
Discipline Ø
With the social changes, the extended family, which existed earlier, the important role of a model, played a shock absorber, one for the discharge his emotions air has become a thing of the past. Therefore, parents have to learn the modern, creative ways of bringing up their children. It is noted that the most important but also controversial educational issues discipline. is whether the method is to redirect, Time-outs, loss of privileges, grounding, extra homework or sparks should be the parents embrace their role in training their children to moral and decent adults15. The second ability, the parents purchased on education concerning. Parents should should also educate their children in moral values. The education of the child take some important facts16:
V family’s financial status.
v personalities of parents and children.
Besides education one of the important educational issues of dealing effectively with financial issues. The demand for expenditure on the attitude of the child, medical, hygiene needs flights etc. are today. Therefore, a successful parents know what is important and what is not before the decision on the expenditure of limited resources.
There is no doubt that the children bring us much joy and much responsibility. Most of the stress and worries of the raise can be reduced or canceled with the proper and careful planning. Parents should plan to have a child. The working mother, if they remain at home if the child is born, should plan in advance, as much as possible to save and reduce the expenditure of the family . Both parents are planning to set aside enough time to be with the child, not only when there is a baby, but to the child to an adult.
Parents need not only the problems should have the right training in parenting skills as much as possible. First, both parents should be a congenial and open communication between them. Only when the child comes into the family, they can just with the child to communicate. Further, the “I”, the concept of “I” should be pushed into the background. It is possible that the child gets sick sometimes gently, sometimes serious. Both parents should be responsible to the care of the child, not each other to take blame as the cause of the disease. The children, though full of difficulties, obstacles and events that test the tolerance, is certainly a pleasure. It is a joy. A successful parents should know how to smile. This will be the stress and to reduce the pain of the child. When in juvenile stage, growing the skills of the parents should be further strengthened. You should know more about the physical, psychological and mental development of children.
It is recalled that the conditions for effective parent involvement, attention, love and constant denial of administrative punishment are slightly rapid. Although parenthood is time-consuming, the rewards are very attractive. The future generation, and its success depends of the effective, successful and happy parents of today to a large extent.
first author’s personal experience
second Ibid.
3 http://www.raisingkids.co.uk
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article / 614981/authoritative_authoritarian_and_permissive.html
The Great Dictionary of English Language (Reader’s Digest Association Limited, London, 2003) p.56, 57
Three types of parents: Love and Logic Institute – www.loveandlogic.com 1981st
http://intentionalparents.com/types-of-parents/ S.1 Ibid. p.2.
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